Abhishek Rajput

Imagine you’re planning a journey and you are looking for directions. Is it possible to get directions to a destination that you do not know yet? If you do not have any goals, how do we know what techniques to use to help you reach your goals? Not having goals is like trying to find directions to a destination when you have not decided where you would like to go.


Question? 
- It may be difficult to change the habit of a lifetime in a few weeks or months. Once you have created your goals, you to start your journey towards recovery. It’s like helping people to get to the right train station and on to the right train. Once the journey has started, it’s up to the individual to practice working through the new techniques learnt.

Let’s look at some examples of SMART goals: 

1. I would like to meet a friend for a drink 3 times a week and spend 30 minutes talking to them. I would like to achieve this within the next 3 months.

2. Whilst I am looking for a job, I would like to call 3 prospective employers each week and ask them about any vacancies. I would like to be able to do this within the next 3 weeks.

3. I would like to learn how to challenge my negative thinking so that I do not always jump to conclusions. Instead of worrying about things all day, I would like to allocate 20 minutes a day writing down all my worries and try to manage them. I would like to achieve this by the end of the month.


Let’s look at some examples of goals which are NOT SMART: 

1. I would like to feel less anxious.

2. I would like to stop avoiding things.

3. I would like to do the things I used to do.

Beaver

Everybody wants to be happy in life. We all want to live a perfect life. We want that great job or a successful business. We want to be married to Mr. Right or Mrs Perfect. We want to have great kids. We want to have friends that stick by us. We want to be able to have all the material things life has to offer and have all our problems just disappear.

But Actually Life is bit different, or a bit difficult.
Like - your boss will not always be the nicest person in the world. Your job will have challenges that you did not foresee. Your workmates will sometimes be a pain. You won’t always get the salary and recognition that you want and deserve at work. Your clients may not be the nicest people in the world. your kids won’t always be the ideal kids you want them to be. Your wife or husband may not be as perfect as you thought they were when you married them.
I know that at times you feel that it’s all very confusing and just too hard. I mean you have worked very hard. You’ve done all that you possibly could in your life whether it is at work or at home. But things just don’t seem to have worked out as well as you had planned or hoped. It all just seems to have gone wrong and you don’t know or understand how or why.
But that’s okay. It’s normal. That’s what being human is all about. That’s what life is all about. Accept that. Accepting doesn't mean that you will go with the flow, Remember only dead fishes go with the flow.

BUT

You can make your life better. You have total responsibility for what you do and how you respond to the fact that life is difficult.
Because the only person you have any control over is yourself. You cannot change other people. No matter what situation you are in, you have a choice. No matter how bad things are, you have a choice. No matter what you think you can or cannot do, you have a choice. It may be a very difficult choice and the road you decide to take may be a tough one. It may push you way out of your comfort zone. It may mean that in the initial period your life may get even harder than it already is.

A lot of times you will actually find that the choices are not as hard as you thought they were.Once you become open to the idea that you are responsible for your life and that you have choices, you will find that you are no longer stuck just because life is difficult. So i would say these ideas and the choices are those ingredients with the help of these You can prepare your lemonade.

There are lot of similarities and as well lot of differences may found in manager's role depending upon the process or business. Here we will be trying to understand some of the basic roles or responsibilities of a manager irrespective of their line of business. However there are so many functions of a manager but here I will try to designate some of the very important functions.

1. Planning - If people working in groups have to perform effectively, they should know in advance what is to be done, what activities they have to perform in order to do what is to be done, and when it is to be done. Planning is concerned with 'what', 'how, and 'when' of performance. It is deciding in the present about the future objectives and the courses of action for their achievement.


2. Directing - The function of leading the employees to perform efficiently, and contribute their optimum to the achievement of organizational objectives. Jobs assigned to subordinates have to be explained and clarified, they have to be provided proper guidance in job performance.


3. Organizing - Organizing involves identification of activities required for the achievement of objectives and implementation of plans. Every manager has to decide what activities have to be undertaken in his department or section for the achievement of the goals entrusted to him.


4. Controlling - Controlling is the function of ensuring that the departmental and individual performances are consistent with the predetermined objectives and goals. Deviations from objectives and plans have to be identified and investigated, and correction action should be taken.

Apart from these four, I 'll also like to mention that staffing and coordination are no less important aspects to understand complete functions of a manager.

The "art of getting things done through people".

A manager is one who contributes to the organization’s goals indirectly by directing the efforts of others – not by performing the task himself. On the other hand, a person who is not a manager makes his contribution to the organization’s goals directly by performing the task himself.

Sometimes, a person in an organization may play both these roles simultaneously. For example, a sales or Tech manager is performing a managerial role when he is directing his sales or Tech team to meet the organization’s goals, but when he himself is contacting a large customer base and negotiating a deal or solving the customer's issues, he is performing a non-managerial role. In the former role, he is directing the efforts of others and is contributing to the organization’s goals indirectly, in the latter role, he is directly utilizing his skills as a salesman or a technician to meet the organization’s objectives.

Management may be called as the sum-total of all these activities like -

1. Determine objectives, plans, and policies.
2. Secure and assist men, material, machinery cheaply.
3. Direct and motivate the men at work,
4. Supervises and control their performance, and
5. Provide maximum prosperity and happiness for both employer and employees.

How to be Happy -

We all want to be happy, but we hardly work for it. We all must have heard " Don't Worry, Be Happy". But most of the time we do the opposite. Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life.

Here are couple of Options what you can try...

1. Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments.

2. Being grateful is a great attitude.  We have so much to be thankful for. Thanks your taxi driver, your cook, your friends or family who all are a important part of your life.

3. News is stressful.  Just Try to think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting your day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do i guess.

4. Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Trust me.

5. Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you.

6. Learning is a great exercise. Try to learn something new everyday. It boosts your confidence.

7. Run, laugh, walk, breath and do all things that your body is made for. Make or Feel yourself alive.

Last but not the least.. You can be happy, if you really choose to be..